How to talk to anyone  

● Every physical move you make tells everyone in eyeshort the story of your life.

● Every smile, every frown, every syllable you utter, or every choice of word that passes between your lips can drawn towards you or make them want to run away.

● You only have 10 seconds to show you're somebody.

● The way you look and the way You Move is more than 80% of someone's first impression to you. Not one word need to be spoken.

● "Just give 'em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile and a direct gaze". It's the ideal image for somebody who's a somebody.

● A big, warm smile is an asset but only when it comes a little slower, because then it has more credibility.

● "KEEP GOOD EYE CONTACT. The more eye contact, the more positive feelings." Don't break eye contact even after he or she has finished speaking.

● Epoxy eyes technique suggests you concentrate on the listener (your target) rather than the speaker.

OR

Watch the speaker but let your glance bounce to your target each time the speaker finishes a point. 

why use this technique? -- to make someone fall for you.

● Remember, buried deep inside everyone is a big baby who is rattling the crib, wailing out for recognition of how very special he or she is.

● "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care about them." The secret to making people like you is showing how much you like them.

● Professional communicator fix a constant gaze on the listener. They never put their hands on the faces. They don't message their arm to rub their nose when it itches.

● Watch people, see how they are reacting, and then make your move accordingly. Even while you are talking, keep your eyes on your listeners and watch how they are responding to what you are saying. Are they smiling? They like what they are hearing? Are they looking away? Are they stepping back?

● The first step starting a conversation without strangling it is to match your listener's mood, if only for a sentence or two. When it comes to small talk think music, not words.

● It's not all WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it.

● Remember, people tune into your tone more than your text.

● Anything you say is fine for a good opening line as long as it is not complaining, rude or unpleasant.

● Look for unusual or unique things like purse, a strange tie, or an amusing hat. Look for the objects that draws people's attention and inspires them to approach you and ask "what's that".

● Never ever just give one word sentence response to the question, "where are you from" or "what do yo do". All it takes is an extra sentence or two about your city some interesting facts, some witty observations to hook the asker into conversation.

● When introducing people don't just introduce name but also their hobby or even a talent.

● "Be a word detective", if something have come up with a "plant" in his sentence then they must have some relationship with them.

● Always talk about the person you are communicating with.

● Never be a speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says.

● The last move to make before leaving for party is to turn on the radio news or scan a newspaper. Anything that happened today is good material.

● Don't ask ''what do you do" instead ask "how do you spend most of your time".

● The world preceives people with rich vocabularies  to be more creative, more intelligent. Have a larger vocabularies so big winners use rich, full words and they never sound inappropriate. Appreciate someone to whom you want to impress(try it on friends) Use nice words or phrases to impress them use words which are not common like elegant, stunning, ravishing, splendid, extraordinary, remarkable, etc.

● KILL THE QUICK 'ME, TOO!' "Whenever people mention an activity on interest you share, let them enjoy discussion their passion. Then, when the time is right, casually mentioned you share their interest.

● Use comm-YOU-nication.

Start every sentence with "YOU." It immediately grabs your listener attention. Like

---- Instead of saying "I like your suit" you can say "You look great in that suit."

---- That's a good question to "You have asked a good question."

● Call a spade spade, no cutesy words for body parts. They'll say "breast" when they mean "breast".

● Never, ever make a joke at anyone else's expense, you'll wind up paying for it. 

● NEVER LET THE PHRASE "THANK-YOU" STAND NAKED AND ALONE.

for eg.

---- Thank you for coming.

---- Thank you for being so understanding.

---- Thank you for waiting.

---- Thank you for being such a good customer.

● All you have to do is throw out the right questions to get people to open up. "Show sincere interest in people will talk."

● SCRAMBLE THERAPY

Do something totally out of your pattern. If you  usually play tennis on weekends then go for hiking, if usually do hiking then go for water rafting, take a chest lecture, go bird watching, or go to exhibition.

A great way to start or keep a conversation, as 80% of the right lingo and insider questions you get just from one exposure.

● People feel comfortable around people who move just like they do.

● Listen to the speaker's arbitrary choice of nouns, verbs, preposition and adjectives and eco them back. Hearing the words come out of your mouth makes them feel you share their values, their attitudes, their interest and their experiences.

● Don't use uh, huh or umm in between when you are talking with someone instead use EMPATHIZERS.

Empathizers are short, supportive and complete sentence such as "I can appreciate you decided to do that", or "that's really exciting." Your empathy impresses your listeners and encourage them to continue.

● Don't use the word "YOU" and "I" instead use "WE". It makes the listener feel connected.

● Praise everybody well.

● Instead of praising directly, tell someone who is close to the person you wish to complement.

● Whenever you hear something good about someone pass it to that person and they will appreciate you as much as the complimenter.

● call, mail, or email people with information they might find interesting.

● Whenever you are talking with a stranger you would like to make part of your professional or personal future, search for one attractive, specific and unique quality he or she has.

● Let they know how much you appreciate them with verbal little strokes like "Nice job", "Well done"!

● It's wonderful to tell people you appreciate or love them. When it matches what they appreciate or love about themselves, the effect is overpowering.

● People perk up when the hear their own name. Use it more often on the phone than you would in person to keep their attention.

● SMILE before talking to anyone or taking phone calls.

● Always begin by asking "are you free."

● Whenever you hear other person voice in the background while talking to on a phone, stop and ask whether they have to attend it.

● Be the chooser, not the choose.

Do not waiting for the moment when that special person approaches you. You make it happen by exploring every person in the room.

● Keep track of where the people wear, what they said, and what they were doing since the last conversation, so the first words of the next phone call or meeting with that person relates to that information.

● The human body is a 24 hour broadcasting station that transmits "you thrill me", "you bore me", "that one put my feet to sleep".

 Pick up all this signals from your customers and friends then plan your pitch and your pace accordingly.

● People who respond first to a presentation or happening without looking around to see how everyone is reacting, are the men and women of leadership caliber.

SO BE THE FIRST CLAPPER.

Book written by Leil Lowndes.